Mediocrity

Someone on my friends list on Facebook bemoaned being stuck in one place most of the year, and wondered how we ever got used to mediocrity.

Mediocrity, I assume, being stuck in one place, among other things. Her comment alone didn't bother me. But I applied it to things that have been said to me, and finally managed to identify what it is that bothered me so about the last relationship.

Mediocrity. Or rather, he thought I represented mediocrity (not that I was mediocre, personally).

Granted, I realize everyone's mediocrity is different. The person who wants to travel the world will look at being stuck in one place as a punishment. But maybe I'm over-sensitive; it just struck me as rather a sweeping condemnation of a lifestyle (staying in one place) that I generally embrace.

I would like to travel, one day. I have no insatiable urge to do it, and I do not think my life will have any less meaning if it won't. I like to settle into a place, make friends, be comfortable.

Mediocrity, to me, is spending hours washing dishes and scuzz from pots and pans by hand because your landlord was too cheap to install a dishwasher.

(Yep. The Suz is washing dishes and hating every minute of it.)

I guess it just makes me wonder what those who so lust to not be in the same place think of those of us who do. Do they think we're okay with mediocrity? Do they think we lack ambition?

I've realized life is too short to sit around debating what's going wrong in my world. Focus on what's going right - things look much brighter, and the bad stuff doesn't seem as bad. That has been working for me recently.

I do think the most recent dude saw relationship = tied down = mediocrity. Which is sad; that means we don't work on the most fundamental level. All that was right could not overcome that. And I do think he saw me as limiting.

It's been an eye-opening week or so without any contact with him. I daresay I'm enjoying it. I manage to have fun and enjoy myself on my own; why should I be waiting to hear from someone who sees me as...well...mediocre?